One Trick That Helped My Dogs Mild Separation Anxiety
My dog Laika had some mild separation anxiety years ago, and for anyone whose dealt with that issue you know one thing – it’s no fun at all.
It’s stressful enough to get up and get ready for work everyday (aka being an adult, or “adulting” as I prefer), but when you add in the fact that your dog is following you around everywhere getting sad & nervous as you get ready — well it can be quite heartbreaking.
Luckily for me her separation anxiety was mild, and thus fairly easy to treat. Here’s the one little trick that helped my dogs mild separation anxiety.
How I Define Mild Separation Anxiety
Does your dog get anxious and upset as you’re getting ready to leave for work or school? If so your dog has some separation anxiety issues, and you’re not alone. An estimated 20% of dogs have separation anxiety. As with many canine issues the behaviors associated with it can range from mild to severe.
In mild cases of canine separation anxiety your dog may follow you around as you get ready, seem depressed when you leave or try to follow you out the door. In mild cases those anxious behaviors are limited to how your dog acts as you get ready, not what they do after you leave.
If your dog stays anxious after you leave they have a more severe case, and you’re going to need multiple methods to help manage it. (see the resources section at the bottom of this post for more information)
With Laika it was a little hard to tell if she was really anxious or not since she’s quite the velcro dog, aka dog that follows you everywhere. But as I got ready for work I could tell she was getting antsy because her usual ‘I’m going to follow you around in a calm manner’ mentality turned into more of a ‘hey, what are you doing now?’ one.
My dog fit into the mild category when it comes to separation anxiety, so the treatment wasn’t complex. She only got anxious as I was getting ready, and those behaviors disappeared after I left.
For severe cases, or cases where your dog continues to panic after you leave I highly recommend getting help from a professional. Severe cases of separation anxiety can be hard to manage, and there is no ‘one size fits all’ quick fix. If you suspect your dog may have a serious case of separation anxiety check out the resources at the end of this article for help.
If your dog has a severe case of separation anxiety you may need more than this one little trick. Check out the resources at the bottom of this article for more information.
Why It’s Important to Treat Canine Separation Anxiety
If your dog has a severe case of separation anxiety you’ve witnessed first hand how much stress it can cause. In the most severe of cases dogs aren’t just suffering tremendous psychological stress, they can become physically injured by their behaviors. And the problem isn’t likely to get better on it’s own, in most cases it continues to get worse if not treated.
Helping your dog manage their anxiety when you leave isn’t just about preventing a severe case, it’s also about helping them feel comfortable & confident in their daily routine.
How I Managed My Dogs Mild Separation Anxiety
The best success I had when dealing with Laika’s mild separation anxiety was by giving her something to focus on (and look forward to) as I left. And for me it was the simple act of giving her a big old stuffed Kong every morning right as I was leaving. (If you’ve never stuffed a Kong before check out this article on Stuffing a Kong to find out how to get started.)
The reason it worked was because it turned her ‘oh no she’s leaving’ thoughts into ‘sweet, look at this awesome yummy thing I have.’ Once I gave her that Kong she wasn’t worried about me anymore, or the fact that I was about to leave for 8 hours. She put all her focus onto that Kong, and I was shocked at how well it worked. She didn’t even glance my way as I left after that. All of her attention went to that Kong & nothing else.
You can help your dog manage their separation anxiety by giving them something fun to do. Shift their focus away from you & your getting ready routine onto something else that they enjoy.
Give Your Dog Something to Do As You’re Leaving
My biggest tip for dealing with your dogs mild separation anxiety is to give them something to do as you leave. For us a stuffed Kong was perfect; it kept her occupied for a long time, and it’s something she goes bonkers for. If your dog is already a pro at dealing with a stuffed Kong try freezing it overnight to make it last even longer.
Now the most surprising thing about this little trick is that it doesn’t suffer from diminishing returns. If anything it made Laika much more calm in the mornings altogether. After a few days of getting that Kong as I was leaving she knew the deal. She wasn’t pestering me as I put my shoes on anymore, she was calmly waiting for her treat. That Kong became part of her daily routine, something nice to look forward to at 7:30 every morning.
Give Your Dog Their Own Important Routine
By giving my dog her very own important thing to do every morning she became much more relaxed. She was no longer just focusing on my frantic morning routine, she had her own thing to worry about – that beloved Kong of hers.
If you want to help ease your dogs separation anxiety give them something else to focus on when they’d normally be showing those stress signals. If your dog starts to panic as you grab your keys every morning give them something right before that moment. Take them from that ‘oh no she’s leaving’ thought to the ‘OK I have this awesome thing to focus on right now’ one. Give them something enjoyable to do in the morning, so they’re not just focusing on you.
You can help your dogs separation anxiety by them an enjoyable routine to follow in the morning. Instead of focusing on you as you’re getting ready for work they’ll have their very own work to attend to.
Resources for Managing Canine Separation Anxiety
Not all dogs with separation anxiety can be treated by this one little trick alone — much of it will depend on how anxious your dog is when you try it. If your dog is already too stressed out to show any interest in a stuffed Kong they’re going to need more help managing their anxiety.
More severe cases of canine separation anxiety will likely need repeated desensitization techniques, and I highly recommend reaching out to a professional for help. Here’s some resources if you’re looking for more information on canine separation anxiety and various management techniques.
- Separation Anxiety – ASPCA
- Managing Your Dog’s Separation Anxiety – Karen Pryor
- Separation Anxiety – Cornell
- Separation Anxiety in Dogs – AKCCHF
- Don’t Leave Me! Help For Your Dog’s Separation Anxiety (book) – Nicole Wilde
- Separation Anxiety in Dogs – Creature Clinic
Ooh yes, the power of a stuffed Kong 🙂 I always make sure to exercise my pups thoroughly before I leave the house, and then I play relaxing doggie music while I’m away – that approach has worked quite well and nipped separation anxiety in the bud. I also make sure that I don’t make a big deal out of leaving or coming back home. I just act as if it were the most natural thing in the world.
Hi Jen, great tips for helping your dog with anxiety. For more severe issues I have found reiki is a really great way to help them. It helps to reduce stress which is the main cause and leaves them in a peaceful state.
Great article!
It’s also a good idea to wear them out with exercise before you go and crate train them from the beginning, especially if they’re easily bored and prone to destructive behavior.
Excellent tip!
You should also consider crate training so that your furry friend doesn’t demolish your home and hurt him/herself when left alone. Leaving the TV or the radio on “for company” while you’re away will also improve their mood and at the same time distract them from outside noises which might interest or anoy them.
I know it’s hard when working, but you really shouldn’t leave your dog for eight hours. Dogs are social animals so I’m not surprised yours has developed anxiety. Also they need to be walked three times a day. Eight hours is too long to wait between bathroom breaks. Have you considered doggy day care? Most dogs love it.
A workday is eight hours to 95 percent of the world. Do you think everyone who works has a doggie daycare so they can pay 150 a week?
Thanks for helping me out to understand the symptoms which indicate that a dog is suffering from separation anxiety. Such kinds of mental stress have a negative influence on the mental health of a dog. So, symptoms that indicate that a dog is suffering from separation anxiety should not be ignored. The reason behind the appearance of such symptoms should be identified and suitable medication should be provided to the dogs affected by such an issue.
Loneliness triggers mild separation anxiety in the dogs. Such mental disorders could have disastrous outcomes. So, a dog owner should take suitable initiatives to deal with such kinds of mental disorders. A person should do a lot of research on the internet or could ask an experienced professional to learn more about the factors which should be taken into consideration to deal with separation anxiety and factors which should be taken into consideration to keep the dog physically and mentally healthy.
There really aren’t many things in life a stuffed Kong can’t fix!
This is an excellent tip, thanks for this! Another boredom buster I use is to give our dog a deer antler – they are made of extremely hard material, we bought it at a pet shop. Not the cheapest but its lasted so far several months, so worth it in terms of longevity.
I’m looking forward to seeing such great posts like that one! Excellent tips! Thank you so much for sharing!
I play loosening up doggie music while I’m away, that approach has worked very well and stopped detachment tension from the beginning. I likewise ensure that I don’t overplay leaving or returning home. I simply go about as though it were the most common thing on the planet.